Often we look down on ourselves for the mistakes we’ve made. We neglect to understand that making mistakes is apart of life, it’s what’s makes us human. Learning from those mistakes and allowing those lessons to elevate us in our growth and to increase our understanding is what makes us beyond human; spiritual beings having a human experience. So forgive yourself, embrace your mistakes and learn in order to be a better you.
Live long and prosper fockers,
Tiffany Michellé 🖖
11 Days & Counting…
Tiffany’s sophomore project is a 40 day journaling book filled with positive & inspirational quotes geared toward guiding it’s reader closer to the beautiful spirit within them.
Join us on this divine journey to discovering your spiritual enlightenment!
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Until next time my sweet little suga dumplings,
Tiffany Michellé 💋
Hey love bugs! Happy holidays to everyone! I certainly and sincerely hope all is well.
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I am scheduled to release my sophomore literary project, A Soul’s Stroll: A 40 Day Journey to Discovering Spiritual Enlightenment, early January and I wouldn’t want anyone to miss out on the announcement!
I appreciate all of the love and support!
Until next time my sweet little suga dumplings,
Tiffany Michellé 💋
Loving you doesn’t mean that I am responsible for saving you. I cannot save you from your past. I cannot save you from your pain. I cannot save you from the things you have yet to learn. I cannot save you from your consequences. I cannot save you from being scared. I cannot save you from the unknown.
As a matter of fact if I attempt to save you from any of this, I am not showing you that I love you. I am showing you that I feel sorry for you. I am showing you that I don’t believe in you. I am showing you that I don’t respect you.
But because I do truly love you, I understand that I cannot walk your journey for you. Since I truly love you I will not rob you of your growth. Since I truly love you I will not rob you of the gift of choice. Since I truly love you, saving you from yourself is something I will not do.
Until next time my sweet little suga dumplings,
Tiffany Michellé
Now that I have your attention…A question: In dating, is there such a thing as having too much in common?
Most times when people are seeking a life partner, they seek a person that has the same habits, likes, dislikes and etc. If you’ve ever created an online dating profile, the sites normally have a chemistry questionnaire or questions that match you up with people on the site who have received similar results. I understand why they do that but when it comes to you as an individual outside of a relationship – How does having everything in common indicate your ability to be stretched into trying something different? How can you learn new things if you’re always looking for something that’s the same?
I realize that having common interests with your partner or a prospective partner is essential to developing a relationship but if you aren’t different enough, wouldn’t that be kind of boring? Shouldn’t life include some kind of challenge and change? I mean really why else would we be here on Planet Earth if we aren’t supposed to grow? How do you know if you’ve learned anything if you don’t allow yourself to be in situations that indicate or measure your development or evolution as a person?
Now, if you are one of those people that think we are just here to be born, do a little bullshit in the middle and then die, stop reading right now and go on about your bullshit ways BUT if you’re a person that feels like this journey is about learning, experiencing what life has to offer and about getting to know yourself better as well as the other foolish mortals in this beautiful Universe, ask yourself this –
Am I cheating myself out of a worthwhile experience by not allowing myself to step outside of my comfort zone?
Until next time my sweet little punk nutts,
Tiffany Michellé
“Don’t fear. If you fall, you’ll be there to catch yourself.”
This is the first time in a relationship that I didn’t put a portion of my happiness in someone else’s hands. Meaning that I knew that he couldn’t make me happy and therefore I didn’t burden him with that responsibility. I understood that my happiness could only come from inside of me. I was happy going in and I’m still happy even though the relationship came to an end. I own my happy and therefore I also own my life. This is also the first relationship I’ve experienced while being 100% emotionally healthy. I suffered no damaging emotional pain and I didn’t take his pain personal.
The experience showed me how ok I am with being single. Its funny how you think you desire an experience only to find that you don’t really need it. That’s tremendous growth for me because I used to feel incomplete if I wasn’t in a relationship.
We’ve been conditioned to think that we are incomplete if we aren’t with someone. By time you’re 30, family, society and etc. are yelling, YOU SHOULD BE MARRIED!! Then as soon as you get married, they pressure you to reproduce. Hey that’s what people are supposed to do, right? If you divorce, its shame on you!
In the middle of all those demands, not many people are asked, “What do you want?” We are told what to do, by religion, other people, the media and etc. And let’s not talk about the labels placed on our depending on our relationship status…
This freedom has put me in a entirely different place within myself. Now I know I have a choice, I have options. There’s absolutely no internal pressure. I can do whatever or whomever and still be ok! A relationship is no longer mandatory to me. If one happens, it’ll be complimentary, not absolutely necessary. I cannot describe this new feeling but I just love it!
You can learn a lot when you’re paying attention, especially to yourself…
Until next time my scrumptious lovebuckets,
Tiffany Michellè
When a situation in your life feels uncomfortable, remind yourself that life is stretching you. Life’s desire is for you to grow through the lesson in order to become a better you. Take advantage of that moment. Quiet your emotions and consciously ask yourself – What role will I take in this situation, the victim or the victor? You have the power to decide.
Love & Light,
Tiffany Michellè
Couples: When you decided to join together, you both made the conscious decision (hopefully) to become a team. At that point, life was no longer solely about you and it wasn’t solely about them. It was and is about what’s best for the team collectively.
Despite what disagreements we have with our partners or when we allow our egos to get in the way; we must remember that we made the decision to spend our moments with one particular person for a reason and when times get rough we need to refer back to why we made the decision to be together in the first place.
Everyone won’t always agree. We are all different. We have all had different experiences that have molded us into who we are. Whether all of our characteristics or tendencies are healthy or whether they even make sense, for right now we are who we are until we decide to change. We all have different minds full of various thoughts and actually that’s a beautiful thing. The diversity gives us the opportunity to learn new things, gain different perspectives and this process contributes to our growth. If we could see our differences in this way maybe it’d be easier for us to set our egos aside, give up the need to be right in disagreements and focus on whatever is best for the team.
At the end of the day, it’s about the LOVE.
Until next time suga pies,
Tiffany Michellé
http://TiffanyMichel-le.com
I began this blog with the mission of sharing myself with the world while on my journey to finding the woman in me. It was an interesting one to say the least. I had some up and I had some downs but everything I experienced, taught me. I’ve learned so much during this time to make me see differently and more insightfully.
With today being the last day of Almostdating 007, I took the time to read a lot of my posts over again. Some made me laugh, some I just smh and some had me teary eyed. I have never given so much of myself to myself in my life. In a lot of the posts, I was speaking to myself but since you were my audience you might have thought I was speaking to someone else. But most times, it was just me in my mind, thinking aloud courageously.
I asked some close sister friends on my personal Facebook page to point out some of the posts that meant the most to them. You never know what your words mean to people. They surprised me with their responses. I knew they inspired me so much but I had no idea how much my words meant to them.
“I love that you stay real with emotion, situation, and spirit, not being afraid to be human speaking about our simple/complex condition with noting the triumphs/mistakes we beings make to get through this life.”
“What would we do without you Tiffany.”
“I appreciate you. Thanks for sharing with me and always allowing me to be apart of your writing and your journey.”
So now that my life is changing, I have to shift as well. I am no longer a premature dater. I am much more aware. Have I got it ALL figured out? Geshhh! Not by any means. There are still unanswered questions but at least I can say that I see with much more clarity and I see myself much more than I did before internally.
In the meantime I will be working on my writing and my books, continuing to inspire myself and others as well. I will transition this blog to something different with a different title and most likely it will be linked through my website. I will never stop writing, its who I am so some way, somehow you can always be connected to me. My 1st book is available via PayPal. My website http://tiffanymichel-le.com is active but under construction but I promise not for long.
I appreciate all of you. I appreciate my fellow bloggers and all of the hundreds of email followers, the people who have bought my books, I even appreciate the Lookie Lous. Without you to whom shall my words speak?
Not everyone is brave enough to allow themselves to be naked to the world and not everyone will understand. Instead of seeing you as a risk taker or being confident some will see you differently than what you’re actually portraying.
I took that chance when I decided to be free.
Until next life time my friends,
Tiffany Michellé (Pronounced Michel-lay), formerly known as Almostdating007
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As we grow we should learn to accept the fact that people are allowed to choose what they want for their lives. It might not be the same decision that we would make but in that instant we must remind ourselves that we’re all different. Some of us want different things and because of that diversity, we make different choices. People chose to live for their own reasons. They chose their goals and their dreams and they’re permitted to select what they want and what they don’t, no matter how their choice might affect us.
In our last conversation over a year ago before I walked away, my father told me, “I love you daughter.” It was something he said every time we spoke and our conversation was coming to a close. But in his actions, he chooses not to be in my or my little brother’s life for reasons unknown – reasons of his own. Does that mean he doesn’t love us? I don’t know, honestly. The day I decided to heal from the pain, understanding was no longer my concern. I accepted the fact that his version of love isn’t mine.
We must respect the choices that people make with the understanding that it’s their life, not ours. You or I cannot paint a picture depicting what we want someone else’s love to look like and make it truth. How they choose to deliver it is up to them, we can only see what they give, decide if it matches ours and then choose if we want to receive it.
As we mature and experience life, our version of love changes like the weather. We meet people, we think we’re in love, it ends and we realize it was never love, just a very strong like. When we’re young, we love everyone. Then the world taints us, we experience pain and we become selective and protective.
If asked the definition of love, you could try your best to provide the most philosophical, intensely deep answer known to man but that answer would still only be your opinion, almost certainly based on your experiences. What does love look like to a girl whose mother has abused her since infancy? Does it look the same to a boy whose father devotedly cared for him all of his life? What about the girl who fell in love with a man who later broke her heart? What does love look like to her? Most likely her definition will be based on the timing in which you asked – before or after the heartache.
I have no idea what love is to you, her, him or anyone else; what I do know is…
“People will show you all kinds of confusing depictions of love therefore concurrently you must know without a doubt what it means to you. You need to be conscious of what it feels like, what it looks like, what it tastes like, what it smells like and what it sounds like to you. After you decide it’s meaning with everything within your being, you must stand firm on that belief consistently, like breathing.”
Until we meet again,
Almostdating007
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