Often we look down on ourselves for the mistakes we’ve made. We neglect to understand that making mistakes is apart of life, it’s what’s makes us human. Learning from those mistakes and allowing those lessons to elevate us in our growth and to increase our understanding is what makes us beyond human; spiritual beings having a human experience. So forgive yourself, embrace your mistakes and learn in order to be a better you.
Live long and prosper fockers,
Tiffany Michellé 🖖
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As we grow we should learn to accept the fact that people are allowed to choose what they want for their lives. It might not be the same decision that we would make but in that instant we must remind ourselves that we’re all different. Some of us want different things and because of that diversity, we make different choices. People chose to live for their own reasons. They chose their goals and their dreams and they’re permitted to select what they want and what they don’t, no matter how their choice might affect us.
In our last conversation over a year ago before I walked away, my father told me, “I love you daughter.” It was something he said every time we spoke and our conversation was coming to a close. But in his actions, he chooses not to be in my or my little brother’s life for reasons unknown – reasons of his own. Does that mean he doesn’t love us? I don’t know, honestly. The day I decided to heal from the pain, understanding was no longer my concern. I accepted the fact that his version of love isn’t mine.
We must respect the choices that people make with the understanding that it’s their life, not ours. You or I cannot paint a picture depicting what we want someone else’s love to look like and make it truth. How they choose to deliver it is up to them, we can only see what they give, decide if it matches ours and then choose if we want to receive it.
As we mature and experience life, our version of love changes like the weather. We meet people, we think we’re in love, it ends and we realize it was never love, just a very strong like. When we’re young, we love everyone. Then the world taints us, we experience pain and we become selective and protective.
If asked the definition of love, you could try your best to provide the most philosophical, intensely deep answer known to man but that answer would still only be your opinion, almost certainly based on your experiences. What does love look like to a girl whose mother has abused her since infancy? Does it look the same to a boy whose father devotedly cared for him all of his life? What about the girl who fell in love with a man who later broke her heart? What does love look like to her? Most likely her definition will be based on the timing in which you asked – before or after the heartache.
I have no idea what love is to you, her, him or anyone else; what I do know is…
“People will show you all kinds of confusing depictions of love therefore concurrently you must know without a doubt what it means to you. You need to be conscious of what it feels like, what it looks like, what it tastes like, what it smells like and what it sounds like to you. After you decide it’s meaning with everything within your being, you must stand firm on that belief consistently, like breathing.”
Until we meet again,
Almostdating007
Imagine with me:
Your partner has done something that has affected you in an emotionally harmful manner; your feelings are hurt. Although you’re affected by this, you don’t want to say fuck it and throw in the towel so you conjure up some serious bravery and express yourself respectfully (bravery – Because we all know that it’s not always easy to put our feelings out in the open, especially after we’ve been hurt by someone we care for) and they respond by saying,
“Your feelings don’t make sense.”
All relationships aren’t going to be easy and if you think that L-O-V-E will stop you and your partner from having a disagreement, think again. You must realize that no matter how much you feel for one another, you have two different minds and therefore you won’t continuously agree on everything. Also you’re two people who have lived diverse experiences so you might not even always understand one another. But having a difference of opinion doesn’t mean that you aren’t still on the same page as far as your relationship is concerned.
Different doesn’t always mean bad, sometimes different is good for us because it
helps us in our growth. Different stretches you and moves you out of your comfort zone. When we’ve reached a certain point in our growth, we come to realize that not always understanding each other is normal. Most importantly, it’s how you react when you don’t understand something about your partner and vice versa; that’s the vital determinant of the success and health in your relationship.
As human beings for some reason we have a habit of ridiculing the things we don’t comprehend or aren’t familiar with. We become suspicious or concerned when our partner seems to be displaying a behavior that is similar to a past lover’s behavior. It seems to be a learned behavior but it doesn’t prove to be a very positive one. At times when we don’t understand our partner’s feelings, we immediately take offense or discredit their feelings by telling them that th
ey shouldn’t feel that way or their feelings don’t make sense. We compare them to people or a person we’ve dated in the past as if they are not two totally different people. That is the easiest way to make your partner withdraw. It causes a person to feel like their feelings don’t matter and it might actually cause your partner to stop expressing themselves to you. Also if you’re comparing your partner to someone else, you might want to ask yourself if you’ve healed from the past experience. People react to things based on their experiences and your partner shouldn’t have to be punished for the tainted taste your ex left in your mouth. The best thing you can do for your relationship is to take your ego out of it. If we truly care for our partners, our first reaction should be out of love. It shouldn’t be our first instinct to take offense simply because we don’t understand or agree with their feelings. If you want to maintain a healthy and loving relationship with this person, the last thing you want to do is push them away right?
In love and relationships, we should provide a safe space for our partners. Even if we have no understanding in regard to their feelings, would it hurt for us to just say, “Well honey, I didn’t mean to affect you in that way” or “Sweetie, I don’t understand why you feel like that but it wasn’t my intention to cause you any harm.” Oh this is a good one: “Honey, I see that you’re dealing with some things, how about I give you some time to sort your feelings out and when you’re ready to discuss it, I’m here for you.” Sometimes it’s not about YOU and in love there are moments when we have to set our opinions and judgments aside to focus on getting back to the place where you and y
our partner feel loved and supported. Who gives a damn if we have to put our egos in the closet in order to do so? At the end of the day we want to show our love enough to where we’re still getting some nookie aka SEXXXXX ☺.
When each person is willing to open up and be themselves, it’s a great thing! If you agree on absolutely everything, someone is faking. When your lover opens up and expresses how they feel, pat yourself on the back because that means they care and love you enough to try to make it work. It also indicates that you’ve provided a space in which they’re comfortable being vulnerable with you. If your partner is still talking to you after all of your mess ups, even the ones you won’t fess up to, there’s still hope.
Until we meet again my sweet little monkey butts,
Almostdating007
*In the 1st paragraph I bolded, RESPECTFULLY intentionally because just because you’re hurt that doesn’t give you the right to disrespect your partner in how you speak to them and vice versa. If you’re irate, cursing at your lover, raising your voice and etc. as a way as expressing how you feel, you cannot blame your partner for returning exactly what you’re giving them. Like attracts like so negative energy attracts more negative energy. GET IT TOGETHER!
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You’re frustrated and everyone you’ve met in regard to dating has been a 
douche bag (my 2nd favorite word, after cock sucker). So now you’re done! Your mouth says, you’d rather stay single than to keep going through the bullshit! You’re mad, you don’t feel appreciated, you’re misunderstood and you feel like all of the good people in the world must be married, gay or in prison, Sound about right?
Well let’s see if I can help you gain a renewed perspective without hurting your little feelings.
As always to give you a little cushion as I like to do, I’ll begin with me. After years and years of dating the wrong people, I was emotionally exhausted. I had enough. I took a moment to sit down and I thought about my dating life. I thought about all of the decisions I made in my past in regard to people I dated and in that instant, a light bulb went off. The inner voice in my head said…
No matter how mad this made my ego, my inner voice was right. I wouldn’t have been able to see or admit that to myself if I allowed myself to still be in the midst of the bullshit. But by that time I had removed myself. Don’t get me wrong, I was still angry. I was mad, I felt unappreciated and misunderstood and I began to believe that all the good people were either married, gay or in jail.
My inner guide (or whatever you choose to call it) was trying to get me to see that my major issue wasn’t the douche bags. My main issue was that for whatever reason, I picked them. In what I now call the ultimate surrender, I had to admit that the issue was me.
Now by no means am I saying that it’s ok to cheat, belittle, be selfish and treat people inappropriately. The douche bag cock suckers were wrong too. But their issues weren’t about me. Their issues were about them. If I hadn’t picked them, their actions wouldn’t have affected me.
So what I needed was the reasoning. Why did I continue to settle for people who didn’t deserve me? I was smart, beautiful, had big goals, grand aspirations and the determination to achieve it all but I’d date guys that sold drugs as their main “jobs,” guys who dropped out of high school and had no plans of completing their education, guys who were mean and angry and guys who cheated habitually. Now I’m not judging, everyone has their own journey but these were individuals who just didn’t match me.
So with all this being said, let me ask you something sweetie. Does this hit home for you? Are you a current dater hater because you are the common denominator?
(Puts hand under chin, cocks head to the right, lifts both eyebrows and patiently waits for an answer)
Until we meet again sweet sexy thangs,
Almostdating007
In the past three hundred and sixty one days I’ve learned that…
The Unhealed will hurt me only if I allow them to
Lies will run to avoid the Truth
My energy is captivating but that doesn’t mean they are ready to receive me
The Universe does exactly what I ask it to do; it protects me even when my ego doesn’t want it to
My intuition is the best companion for this journey
The feeling I get in my chest when deception is near isn’t an indication that I’m not healed, instead it’s a gift. It forewarns me that my heart’s best isn’t their interest
People are scared to feel
There’s nothing wrong with the silence, it’s how I deal
This isn’t my 1st lifetime and I’ve learned the most in this one
The small star in my dreams is my son
My soul’s mission is bigger than the human things I desire in my life
Validation doesn’t come from being a man’s wife
Smiling is not a form of true happiness
Words without action are worthless
People will voluntarily reveal their weaknesses
In order to really understand others, it’s best to remain quiet
I wouldn’t mind living alone with the trees
No matter how much I hold on, I can detach just as easily
I’m ok with it just Being me.
© 2014 Tiffany Michellé
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