Freedom isn’t just a word. Freedom is a way of life mentally, spiritually, emotionally, psychologically and sensually. One can be physically hampered and still be free, you see. Some claim to be free but lie concurrently. Hiding behind masks, living foolishly to those who can see, riddled with shame, existing in confined secrecy. I, myself have no understanding of such self sabotaging treachery. I would rather partake in lifelong debauchery and be judged than to act as if I am something I wasn’t made to be. Frivolous lips call it sin, while simply “Eye Am” being Me.
I’ve lost both of my parents. I’m 37 and I live in an empty nest. Most nights I dine with my thoughts, cuddled up and comfy with solitude. Silence keeps me warm. Regret keeps me busy.
Some people don’t really understand the significance of time. More than money or any other materialistic thing, its what I wish I had more of.
We take advantage of the notion of tomorrow, not really accepting the fact that it might not show up. We spend so much of our moments chasing fantasies and worrying about the things we can’t control.
By focusing on who I’d disappoint, I sacrificed my own happiness, spending many years of my life living for other people. Who I was, was lost. My vision was unclear. I sit in silence thinking of how many opportunities I was gifted to experience life, wishing I could go back in time. To the moment when…
All she wanted to do was love me.
We learn our ABCs; we don’t learn how to be happy. Boy and Girls today’s lesson: How to people please. We are raised to be drones, programmed to live for our family, religion and society. We live in a space where people seldom ask, “Are you truly happy?”
My advice to you:
Don’t wait until it’s too late
Cherish those you love
Treasure those who love you
Live your life for you
Do what you love
Be who you want to be
NOW is all we have
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The lonely heart ails at the able inability to give of its self. The most difficult experience my heart has felt is prohibited expression; loving a soul that failed to see my reflection. Even more so my incapacity to let go.
as humans we’ve been unconsciously reared to be people pleasers. Others will tell you to listen to their entity of choice but what most of them are saying is, “do what will please others so they won’t judge you or me because I know you.” So when we’re contemplating a decision, we automatically take account of how our choices will affect the people in our life and we worry about how they’ll see us. We normally choose what other people want for us and not what we desire. Not many of us were raised to do what makes us happy.
When we receive advice from people, we can’t really trust it because there’s sometimes an unconscious internal motive. You think people want the best for you but how can they really if they’re always telling you to read a book you didn’t write or to listen to an entity that most of them don’t really understand. They are people pleasers themselves so how or why should we trust their opinions when it comes to what’s best for us.
So my point? In the words of a poor righteous teacher, Devin the dude
“Do what the fuck you wanna do.” No one has to live for you and contrary to popular belief, you didn’t manifest yourself in this time space reality to please other people prior to pleasing yourself. Love is much better than and less selfish than what we’ve been shown and given. Love doesn’t leave or judge you because you’re being yourself. Love doesn’t want you to do what you’ve been told instead of living in your truest nature and desires. Love doesn’t worry about how your actions or your lifestyle will make it, your friends or your families look. Love only wants you to be exceedingly happy.
This is the first time in a relationship that I didn’t put a portion of my happiness in someone else’s hands. Meaning that I knew that he couldn’t make me happy and therefore I didn’t burden him with that responsibility. I understood that my happiness could only come from inside of me. I was happy going in and I’m still happy even though the relationship came to an end. I own my happy and therefore I also own my life. This is also the first relationship I’ve experienced while being 100% emotionally healthy. I suffered no damaging emotional pain and I didn’t take his pain personal.
The experience showed me how ok I am with being single. Its funny how you think you desire an experience only to find that you don’t really need it. That’s tremendous growth for me because I used to feel incomplete if I wasn’t in a relationship.
We’ve been conditioned to think that we are incomplete if we aren’t with someone. By time you’re 30, family, society and etc. are yelling, YOU SHOULD BE MARRIED!! Then as soon as you get married, they pressure you to reproduce. Hey that’s what people are supposed to do, right? If you divorce, its shame on you!
In the middle of all those demands, not many people are asked, “What do you want?” We are told what to do, by religion, other people, the media and etc. And let’s not talk about the labels placed on our depending on our relationship status…
This freedom has put me in a entirely different place within myself. Now I know I have a choice, I have options. There’s absolutely no internal pressure. I can do whatever or whomever and still be ok! A relationship is no longer mandatory to me. If one happens, it’ll be complimentary, not absolutely necessary. I cannot describe this new feeling but I just love it!
You can learn a lot when you’re paying attention, especially to yourself…
Until next time my scrumptious lovebuckets,
Tiffany MichellĂš
The ability to overcome obstacles easily might’ve been innate when we were young and innocent but as we grew, we lost it. Ignoring the pain we’ve been through, guarantees that it’ll show up in our future. Healing is an act of courage that mandates Love of Self and Strength. Either is based on a decision we make. Allow that to marinate….
In the meantime your freedom and happiness await.
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