Because I #love u

Loving you doesn’t mean that I am responsible for saving you. I cannot save you from your past. I cannot save you from your pain. I cannot save you from the things you have yet to learn. I cannot save you from your consequences. I cannot save you from being scared. I cannot save you from the unknown.

As a matter of fact if I attempt to save you from any of this, I am not showing you that I love you. I am showing you that I feel sorry for you. I am showing you that I don’t believe in you. I am showing you that I don’t respect you.

But because I do truly love you, I understand that I cannot walk your journey for you. Since I truly love you I will not rob you of your growth. Since I truly love you I will not rob you of the gift of choice. Since I truly love you, saving you from yourself is something I will not do.

Until next time my sweet little suga dumplings,
Tiffany Michellé

 

#Journey

 

What exactly are Punk Nutts?

Now that I have your attention…A question: In dating, is there such a thing as having too much in common?

Most times when people are seeking a life partner, they seek a person that has the same habits, likes, dislikes and etc. If you’ve ever created an online dating profile, the sites normally have a chemistry questionnaire or questions that match you up with people on the site who have received similar results. I understand why they do that but when it comes to you as an individual outside of a relationship – How does having everything in common indicate your ability to be stretched into trying something different? How can you learn new things if you’re always looking for something that’s the same?

I realize that having common interests with your partner or a prospective partner is essential to developing a relationship but if you aren’t different enough, wouldn’t that be kind of boring? Shouldn’t life include some kind of challenge and change?  I mean really why else would we be here on Planet Earth if we aren’t supposed to grow? How do you know if you’ve learned anything if you don’t allow yourself to be in situations that indicate or measure your development or evolution as a person?

Now, if you are one of those people that think we are just here to be born, do a little bullshit in the middle and then die, stop reading right now and go on about your bullshit ways BUT if you’re a person that feels like this journey is about learning, experiencing what life has to offer and about getting to know yourself better as well as the other foolish mortals in this beautiful Universe, ask yourself this –

Am I cheating myself out of a worthwhile experience by not allowing myself to step outside of my comfort zone? 

Until next time my sweet little punk nutts,

Tiffany Michellé

 

“Don’t fear. If you fall, you’ll be there to catch yourself.”

 

let’s not say goodbye…

I began this blog with the mission of sharing myself with the world while on my journey to finding the woman in me. It was an interesting one to say the least. I had some up and I had some downs but everything I experienced, taught me. I’ve learned so much during this time to make me see differently and more insightfully.

• I learned that I am much braver than I thought I was.
• I learned that it’s ok to be imperfect and that being the perfect me is all I am ever supposed to be.
• I learned that it isn’t people that make me happy.
• I learned that people will leave but the sun will still rise.
• I learned that I might have to observe some things with tears in my eyes.
• I learned that all I need to do is be the best me I can be.
• I learned that your journey is not for everyone to understand and that’s ok.
• I learned that everyone just wants to be happy.
• I learned that I have a gift for saying things that others are afraid to say.
• Etc…etc.

With today being the last day of Almostdating 007, I took the time to read a lot of my posts over again. Some made me laugh, some I just smh and some had me teary eyed. I have never given so much of myself to myself in my life. In a lot of the posts, I was speaking to myself but since you were my audience you might have thought I was speaking to someone else. But most times, it was just me in my mind, thinking aloud courageously.

I asked some close sister friends on my personal Facebook page to point out some of the posts that meant the most to them. You never know what your words mean to people. They surprised me with their responses. I knew they inspired me so much but I had no idea how much my words meant to them.

“I love that you stay real with emotion, situation, and spirit, not being afraid to be human speaking about our simple/complex condition with noting the triumphs/mistakes we beings make to get through this life.”

“What would we do without you Tiffany.”

“I appreciate you. Thanks for sharing with me and always allowing me to be apart of your writing and your journey.”

So now that my life is changing, I have to shift as well. I am no longer a premature dater. I am much more aware. Have I got it ALL figured out? Geshhh! Not by any means. There are still unanswered questions but at least I can say that I see with much more clarity and I see myself much more than I did before internally.

In the meantime I will be working on my writing and my books, continuing to inspire myself and others as well. I will transition this blog to something different with a different title and most likely it will be linked through my website. I will never stop writing, its who I am so some way, somehow you can always be connected to me. My 1st book is available via PayPal. My website http://tiffanymichel-le.com is active but under construction but I promise not for long.

I appreciate all of you. I appreciate my fellow bloggers and all of the hundreds of email followers, the people who have bought my books, I even appreciate the Lookie Lous. Without you to whom shall my words speak?

Not everyone is brave enough to allow themselves to be naked to the world and not everyone will understand. Instead of seeing you as a risk taker or being confident some will see you differently than what you’re actually portraying.

I took that chance when I decided to be free.

Until next life time my friends,

Tiffany Michellé (Pronounced Michel-lay), formerly known as Almostdating007

Paypal link: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=N9Y6WBFDQVG64

 

Subjective Journey…

In the past three hundred and sixty one days I’ve learned that…

The Unhealed will hurt me only if I allow them to

Lies will run to avoid the Truth

My energy is captivating but that doesn’t mean they are ready to receive me

The Universe does exactly what I ask it to do; it protects me even when my ego doesn’t want it to

My intuition is the best companion for this journey

The feeling I get in my chest when deception is near isn’t an indication that I’m not healed, instead it’s a gift. It forewarns me that my heart’s best isn’t their interest

People are scared to feel

There’s nothing wrong with the silence, it’s how I deal

This isn’t my 1^st lifetime and I’ve learned the most in this one

The small star in my dreams is my son

My soul’s mission is bigger than the human things I desire in my life

Validation doesn’t come from being a man’s wife

Smiling is not a form of true happiness

Words without action are worthless

People will voluntarily reveal their weaknesses

In order to really understand others, it’s best to remain quiet

I wouldn’t mind living alone with the trees

No matter how much I hold on, I can detach just as easily

I’m ok with it just Being me.

© 2014 Tiffany Michellé