Never allow anyone to make you feel guilty for their shortcomings. Recognize when someone is attempting to put their bs on you. Either call them out on it or from a distance remain silent but do not under any circumstances, accept that shit! 🙂
Until we meet again my loves,
Tiffany Michellè
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Imagine how you’d feel about yourself if instead of measuring your self-worth by your salary, your bank account balance or by anything materialistic or monetary; you measured yourself by how many smiles and hugs you give, the laughs you create, the positivity you send out and by the love you gift to the world.
Imagine that…
P.S. If you’re a cotton headed nenny muggins and you feel you have nothing good to give, think again. Then read everything in my blog over and over again. Everyone means something… absolutely everyone.
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Until we meet again my loves,
Tiffany Michellè
Being afraid to be you isn’t about who you are to other people, it’s about who you are to yourself. If they truly love you, they’ll accept you. So do you boo. If they move around, they lose not you.
~ Tiffany Michellé.
I began this blog with the mission of sharing myself with the world while on my journey to finding the woman in me. It was an interesting one to say the least. I had some up and I had some downs but everything I experienced, taught me. I’ve learned so much during this time to make me see differently and more insightfully.
With today being the last day of Almostdating 007, I took the time to read a lot of my posts over again. Some made me laugh, some I just smh and some had me teary eyed. I have never given so much of myself to myself in my life. In a lot of the posts, I was speaking to myself but since you were my audience you might have thought I was speaking to someone else. But most times, it was just me in my mind, thinking aloud courageously.
I asked some close sister friends on my personal Facebook page to point out some of the posts that meant the most to them. You never know what your words mean to people. They surprised me with their responses. I knew they inspired me so much but I had no idea how much my words meant to them.
“I love that you stay real with emotion, situation, and spirit, not being afraid to be human speaking about our simple/complex condition with noting the triumphs/mistakes we beings make to get through this life.”
“What would we do without you Tiffany.”
“I appreciate you. Thanks for sharing with me and always allowing me to be apart of your writing and your journey.”
So now that my life is changing, I have to shift as well. I am no longer a premature dater. I am much more aware. Have I got it ALL figured out? Geshhh! Not by any means. There are still unanswered questions but at least I can say that I see with much more clarity and I see myself much more than I did before internally.
In the meantime I will be working on my writing and my books, continuing to inspire myself and others as well. I will transition this blog to something different with a different title and most likely it will be linked through my website. I will never stop writing, its who I am so some way, somehow you can always be connected to me. My 1st book is available via PayPal. My website http://tiffanymichel-le.com is active but under construction but I promise not for long.
I appreciate all of you. I appreciate my fellow bloggers and all of the hundreds of email followers, the people who have bought my books, I even appreciate the Lookie Lous. Without you to whom shall my words speak?
Not everyone is brave enough to allow themselves to be naked to the world and not everyone will understand. Instead of seeing you as a risk taker or being confident some will see you differently than what you’re actually portraying.
I took that chance when I decided to be free.
Until next life time my friends,
Tiffany Michellé (Pronounced Michel-lay), formerly known as Almostdating007
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As we grow we should learn to accept the fact that people are allowed to choose what they want for their lives. It might not be the same decision that we would make but in that instant we must remind ourselves that we’re all different. Some of us want different things and because of that diversity, we make different choices. People chose to live for their own reasons. They chose their goals and their dreams and they’re permitted to select what they want and what they don’t, no matter how their choice might affect us.
In our last conversation over a year ago before I walked away, my father told me, “I love you daughter.” It was something he said every time we spoke and our conversation was coming to a close. But in his actions, he chooses not to be in my or my little brother’s life for reasons unknown – reasons of his own. Does that mean he doesn’t love us? I don’t know, honestly. The day I decided to heal from the pain, understanding was no longer my concern. I accepted the fact that his version of love isn’t mine.
We must respect the choices that people make with the understanding that it’s their life, not ours. You or I cannot paint a picture depicting what we want someone else’s love to look like and make it truth. How they choose to deliver it is up to them, we can only see what they give, decide if it matches ours and then choose if we want to receive it.
As we mature and experience life, our version of love changes like the weather. We meet people, we think we’re in love, it ends and we realize it was never love, just a very strong like. When we’re young, we love everyone. Then the world taints us, we experience pain and we become selective and protective.
If asked the definition of love, you could try your best to provide the most philosophical, intensely deep answer known to man but that answer would still only be your opinion, almost certainly based on your experiences. What does love look like to a girl whose mother has abused her since infancy? Does it look the same to a boy whose father devotedly cared for him all of his life? What about the girl who fell in love with a man who later broke her heart? What does love look like to her? Most likely her definition will be based on the timing in which you asked – before or after the heartache.
I have no idea what love is to you, her, him or anyone else; what I do know is…
“People will show you all kinds of confusing depictions of love therefore concurrently you must know without a doubt what it means to you. You need to be conscious of what it feels like, what it looks like, what it tastes like, what it smells like and what it sounds like to you. After you decide it’s meaning with everything within your being, you must stand firm on that belief consistently, like breathing.”
Until we meet again,
Almostdating007
Earlier today I took one of those surveys that people post on Facebook. This one was “Who are you in a group: The Leader, Voice of Reason or Entertainer” Before I took the test, I knew what I’d get, what I always get, “Leader.” So it was to my surprise when the test gave me “Entertainer.” But as I think about it, it now makes sense and actually I’m kind of proud.
Allow me to explain:
One of my tasks when I decided that I honestly desired to be in a life lasting, loving and healthy relationship was to tap more into my Divine Feminine. I wanted to be so connected to the woman in me that it’d be easy for me to trust and recognize the perfect Masculine Energy for me when it arrived. In my past relationships I’ve always worn the pants. That was a dysfunctional behavior. Although it kind of felt natural to me I knew that it wasn’t and I didn’t prefer it. My soul yearned for balance. I knew that in order for the union I wanted to be successful, I’d have to get comfortable with lessening my dominant attitude in the area of an intimate relationship with a man. I needed to learn how to be comfortable and confident with not being in control all of the time. I knew that I also would have to learn how to trust my future partner in regard to doing things for me, especially financially without my feeling like I was being weak. I’d have to learn how to purr instead of roaring. 
It’s not that I was a control freak, that’s not it at all. It was just that I always chose men who I had to support, fixer uppers so to speak. Also I grew up with brothers that gave me everything I wanted. I’ve never had to depend on anyone else for anything. In my adult years, I maintained that lifestyle and that mentality. In some situations, for example parenting, I haven’t had a choice.
But as I sat in my personal office aka the bathroom (the best thinking place in the universe) I was looking at the post again and other ladies had posted that they got “Leader!” I’m like what the heck is going on? I’m whining to myself at this point, “I’m a leader too…boo hoo!” Then it came to me, the light went off!
I’VE SHIFTED!!!!!
Do you guys remember “Texas Tea?” I did a Vlog and I spoke of how I felt about him. Well we became official on my birthday last month and I’ve been having the time of my life getting to know him and us. What I didn’t realize until now is that from time when we first began to converse I assumed the role of the woman with him naturally even before we became a couple. I knew in my heart he was the One. My soul must’ve known it too because I took the super woman cape off and put on the maxi skirt as soon as he arrived. Mmmm, it feels good to say that. So needless to say I’m happier than a crack head on the 1st of the month to be the” Entertainer.” Besides I’ve been a leader all my life, I’m glad for a break.
Until next time sweet babies,
Almostdating007
(If you take the survey, come back and leave a comment stating what you got and if you agree or disagree : )
Even in my slumber I manifest warranted realities. My mouth waters constantly like a famished beast. I create future destinies in my sleep. I thirst to conquer my desires like I breathe. All the things I’ve done before today were small giants compared to the experiences I plan to see! I stay HUNGRY!
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