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Introducing #imjustthemessenger apparel by Tiffany Michellè!
Now not only can you enjoy my words of inspiration, motivation and realism via my books and blog but you can get as close as close can get to me on the skin you’re in!! Owww La La!!
I will be taking pre-orders and designing additional items in the near future so stay tuned! Men’s shirts are also available!
Spread the Word my little love muffins!
Tiffany Michellè
how to shit #rainbows…
It’s Monday morning and it takes everything within you to drag yourself out of bed. You not only dread Monday mornings but every moment that you have to be at work. You hate your job and you think everyone there is a fucktard! Hmmm…
Well it might not be your job that’s the issue or the people. I’m sorry to say (I’m lying, I’m not sorry) but ITS YOU! Awww poor baby, I’m calling you out and now you’re butt hurt.
You hate me now? Well too bad, keep listening. It sounds like there’s a lack of happiness/quality in your life and the way you’ve been approaching it, is most likely the cause of your discontentment. Get that frown off your face and let me explain.
I write about depending on you emotionally in this blog a lot. Well did you know there’s a word for that?
***Drum roll please***
It’s called INTROSPECTION!
In my own words, introspection is looking within yourself to find the answers you seek, hopefully with an understanding that you’re responsible for your thoughts and feelings, which dictate the level of happiness and quality in your life.
Have you ever met or do you know a person who’s always happy? They seem like they always have something positive to say no matter the circumstances and they’re full of energy. We call those folks Positive Patties. PP’s might remind you of someone who’s amped up on coke but the diff is a PP’s high doesn’t go down, it’s natural, it doesn’t cause nose bleeds and it’s legal lol ☺.
HERE’S THE SECRET!!!
You must realize that happiness isn’t dependent upon or controlled by what’s occurring outside of you (people, religion, society, the media and etc.). Your level of happiness and therefore your quality of life is solely reliant on your thoughts and feelings. The key is you have to be consistent in controlling them in order to experience constant happiness, no matter what you’re doing, what’s going on in your life and regardless of who’s around.
Now some of you might be positively satisfied with your quality of life. If you are, kudos to you; tell everyone your secret by writing it in a book and charging $14.99 for it. That’s what I did…so go buy it at http://tiffanymichel-le.com and then email this post to all the fucktards you know, like seriously…let’s work together to make this world a much happier place.
Until we meet again my sweet banana splits with a cherry on top,
Tiffany Michellé
On the outside looking in…
During life we experience so much with other individuals. Some of those times feel good and some of them don’t. Often when they don’t feel favorable we point our emotional and mental attention outward at the person instead of inward to ourselves. In doing so we miss the opportunity to learn the lesson planted in the experience and therefore the chance to grow into a better us.
Love & Light,
Tiffany Michellè
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Never allow your past mistakes to define nor determine your future.
Until we meet again my loves,
Tiffany Michellè
Choices…
let’s not say goodbye…
I began this blog with the mission of sharing myself with the world while on my journey to finding the woman in me. It was an interesting one to say the least. I had some up and I had some downs but everything I experienced, taught me. I’ve learned so much during this time to make me see differently and more insightfully.
- I learned that I am much braver than I thought I was.
- I learned that it’s ok to be imperfect and that being the perfect me is all I am ever supposed to be.
- I learned that it isn’t people that make me happy.
- I learned that people will leave but the sun will still rise.
- I learned that I might have to observe some things with tears in my eyes.
- I learned that all I need to do is be the best me I can be.
- I learned that your journey is not for everyone to understand and that’s ok.
- I learned that everyone just wants to be happy.
- I learned that I have a gift for saying things that others are afraid to say.
- Etc…etc.
With today being the last day of Almostdating 007, I took the time to read a lot of my posts over again. Some made me laugh, some I just smh and some had me teary eyed. I have never given so much of myself to myself in my life. In a lot of the posts, I was speaking to myself but since you were my audience you might have thought I was speaking to someone else. But most times, it was just me in my mind, thinking aloud courageously.
I asked some close sister friends on my personal Facebook page to point out some of the posts that meant the most to them. You never know what your words mean to people. They surprised me with their responses. I knew they inspired me so much but I had no idea how much my words meant to them.
“I love that you stay real with emotion, situation, and spirit, not being afraid to be human speaking about our simple/complex condition with noting the triumphs/mistakes we beings make to get through this life.”
“What would we do without you Tiffany.”
“I appreciate you. Thanks for sharing with me and always allowing me to be apart of your writing and your journey.”
So now that my life is changing, I have to shift as well. I am no longer a premature dater. I am much more aware. Have I got it ALL figured out? Geshhh! Not by any means. There are still unanswered questions but at least I can say that I see with much more clarity and I see myself much more than I did before internally.
In the meantime I will be working on my writing and my books, continuing to inspire myself and others as well. I will transition this blog to something different with a different title and most likely it will be linked through my website. I will never stop writing, its who I am so some way, somehow you can always be connected to me. My 1st book is available via PayPal. My website http://tiffanymichel-le.com is active but under construction but I promise not for long.
I appreciate all of you. I appreciate my fellow bloggers and all of the hundreds of email followers, the people who have bought my books, I even appreciate the Lookie Lous. Without you to whom shall my words speak?
Not everyone is brave enough to allow themselves to be naked to the world and not everyone will understand. Instead of seeing you as a risk taker or being confident some will see you differently than what you’re actually portraying.
I took that chance when I decided to be free.
Until next life time my friends,
Tiffany Michellé (Pronounced Michel-lay), formerly known as Almostdating007
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You scream, I scream, We all SCREAM for Ice Cream?!
Imagine with me:
Your partner has done something that has affected you in an emotionally harmful manner; your feelings are hurt. Although you’re affected by this, you don’t want to say fuck it and throw in the towel so you conjure up some serious bravery and express yourself respectfully (bravery – Because we all know that it’s not always easy to put our feelings out in the open, especially after we’ve been hurt by someone we care for) and they respond by saying,
“Your feelings don’t make sense.”
All relationships aren’t going to be easy and if you think that L-O-V-E will stop you and your partner from having a disagreement, think again. You must realize that no matter how much you feel for one another, you have two different minds and therefore you won’t continuously agree on everything. Also you’re two people who have lived diverse experiences so you might not even always understand one another. But having a difference of opinion doesn’t mean that you aren’t still on the same page as far as your relationship is concerned.
Different doesn’t always mean bad, sometimes different is good for us because it
helps us in our growth. Different stretches you and moves you out of your comfort zone. When we’ve reached a certain point in our growth, we come to realize that not always understanding each other is normal. Most importantly, it’s how you react when you don’t understand something about your partner and vice versa; that’s the vital determinant of the success and health in your relationship.
As human beings for some reason we have a habit of ridiculing the things we don’t comprehend or aren’t familiar with. We become suspicious or concerned when our partner seems to be displaying a behavior that is similar to a past lover’s behavior. It seems to be a learned behavior but it doesn’t prove to be a very positive one. At times when we don’t understand our partner’s feelings, we immediately take offense or discredit their feelings by telling them that th
ey shouldn’t feel that way or their feelings don’t make sense. We compare them to people or a person we’ve dated in the past as if they are not two totally different people. That is the easiest way to make your partner withdraw. It causes a person to feel like their feelings don’t matter and it might actually cause your partner to stop expressing themselves to you. Also if you’re comparing your partner to someone else, you might want to ask yourself if you’ve healed from the past experience. People react to things based on their experiences and your partner shouldn’t have to be punished for the tainted taste your ex left in your mouth. The best thing you can do for your relationship is to take your ego out of it. If we truly care for our partners, our first reaction should be out of love. It shouldn’t be our first instinct to take offense simply because we don’t understand or agree with their feelings. If you want to maintain a healthy and loving relationship with this person, the last thing you want to do is push them away right?
In love and relationships, we should provide a safe space for our partners. Even if we have no understanding in regard to their feelings, would it hurt for us to just say, “Well honey, I didn’t mean to affect you in that way” or “Sweetie, I don’t understand why you feel like that but it wasn’t my intention to cause you any harm.” Oh this is a good one: “Honey, I see that you’re dealing with some things, how about I give you some time to sort your feelings out and when you’re ready to discuss it, I’m here for you.” Sometimes it’s not about YOU and in love there are moments when we have to set our opinions and judgments aside to focus on getting back to the place where you and y
our partner feel loved and supported. Who gives a damn if we have to put our egos in the closet in order to do so? At the end of the day we want to show our love enough to where we’re still getting some nookie aka SEXXXXX ☺.
When each person is willing to open up and be themselves, it’s a great thing! If you agree on absolutely everything, someone is faking. When your lover opens up and expresses how they feel, pat yourself on the back because that means they care and love you enough to try to make it work. It also indicates that you’ve provided a space in which they’re comfortable being vulnerable with you. If your partner is still talking to you after all of your mess ups, even the ones you won’t fess up to, there’s still hope.
Until we meet again my sweet little monkey butts,
Almostdating007
*In the 1st paragraph I bolded, RESPECTFULLY intentionally because just because you’re hurt that doesn’t give you the right to disrespect your partner in how you speak to them and vice versa. If you’re irate, cursing at your lover, raising your voice and etc. as a way as expressing how you feel, you cannot blame your partner for returning exactly what you’re giving them. Like attracts like so negative energy attracts more negative energy. GET IT TOGETHER!
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Subjective Deception
Love’s apparition
Neglected reciprocation
Endlessly empty
Fear screams
Endogenous vacancy
Yearning for fidelity
Survival is nothing unless it derives from someone else
The lies you whisper to yourself
© 2014 Tiffany Michellé
AKA Almostdating007
Inspiring Times with Tiffany Michellé 💋♥☺ 