#alilsumthinsumthin

One antidote to stress is self-expression. That’s what happens to me every day. My thoughts get off my chest, down my sleeves and onto my pad. – Garson Kanin

In the book I’m currently reading titled, Awakened Mind by David Kundtz he states,

This is not merely an option, but an urgent necessity for healthy, wise 21^st – century living. Find your “something” now-or very soon.

What David is referring to is that something you do that helps you deal; that something that aids you with coping with not only the manic of the world but also the stressors that come along with day to day life. As I’m reading this of course writing comes to mind. If you know me by now, you know without a doubt that writing is my something. As I read on I recall that as I’ve grown to prefer solitude as I’m coping with life, I’ve adopted a few somethings: music, working out, meditation, allowing myself to cry and embracing the silence.

In my past, I was ashamed to admit that life was getting to be too much for me.  I’ve always had a dominant personality and I felt like admitting I was stressed would make me seem weak. Have you ever felt that way?

How many hats do you wear? Who are you to each individual person in your life? Are you a parent, a friend, a sibling, a partner, a caregiver, a child, a boss, an employee or all the above? Think about it. Not only is that a lot of personalities to deal with every single day but it’s also a lot of responsibility. Now add finances, politics, religion, grief and loss, guilt, unresolved emotion, the effects of world events and everything else we experience to that list. AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! How are we not all insane?!

So sit back and think about your life and all that comes with it, ask yourself what is your something. What do you do to deal with the ups, downs and all arounds of life? What practices help maintain your sanity in this insane world? And if you can’t think of anything at all…I suggest you do.

Live long and prosper beautiful fockers,

Tiffany Michellé 🖖

 

#poetryshit

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Fuck that shit you spit about the stars in the skies above when we need to be talking about how these bitches I mean goddesses need love. Oh you mad though bro? Didn’t mommy and daddy give you what you need? Nah moms was gone and never even told you who pops was, did she? So now you wanna take that shit out on me. Ha! Isn’t it so ironic how fucked up folks shy away from therapy but are the most in need concurrently? I won’t exclude myself but you see that’s why I took up psychology. Relationships these days are the shit nah they are the shit nah I mean they are the shit! Literally! People walking around with multiple college degrees but inside they’re dying, handicapped by emotional dis-ease. The shit is mind boggling really. We live in a world tainted by unhealed souls begging for your heart as a hand out without the promise of reciprocation or self control. Fucking with these foolish mortals all you’ll get is absent intellect, a STD your fatherless seed can’t pronounce and no child support check. And that’s just from dealing with these males who mistakenly call themselves men. Let us not forget about the womb-man. Some of you broads are even worse. Less concerned with respecting your temple and more concerned with the next season’s designer purse. “Bag lady you gone hurt yo back dragging all them bags like that.”  Waiting for someone to come along to distract you from the introspection that needs to take place; too scared to stand alone in your own space. Why is it you think when you have someone you’re better but as soon as shit go south your self-security switches like the weather? Because you’re not! You live in an illusion girl! Basing your self-esteem off of a dream, a fantasy you were handed as a child. I’m referring to the lie they told you saying you’re incomplete. You were young and vulnerable so you made that a belief. Now you’re grown, so to speak. “I’ll be fine as soon as I can call him or her mine.” Are you deaf, dumb or are you blind? Can’t you see without self love you’re obsolete? Selling your soul for free in the between the sheets. The Isley Brothers were making love but baby you just getting fucked. Yeah that was harsh but you need to hear this shit, so imma give it to you raw and uncut. You’re not a victim, you’re a volunteer and you need to grow up. It makes no sense to be playing these games when all you’re doing is hurting yourself. As soon as they’re gone there you go feeling sorry for yourself. Why don’t you take a timeout and do what you need to do to eliminate self-doubt. Only then will you not have to fake like you’re the shit, you truly will be and you’ll have the internal work you accomplished to prove it, Just Like Me. 

~ Tiffany Michellé ✌

 

Beautiful Bullshit, Part 2

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Life is and will continue to be a trip. The key to life is not allowing the bullshit to keep you from recognizing the beauty, not allowing the beauty to blind you from seeing the bullshit, being cognizant that both concurrently exist and figuring out how you’re gonna deal with it. Sometimes you care, Sometimes you say #fuckit. That’s Life.

~ Tiffany Michellé

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The #Dating Series: Intentions

When you meet someone, if they’re truly interested in you, everything they do should match – how they pay attention to you, the questions they ask, the things they want to know about you. if they’re truly interested in you and who you are and what you can be for them and what they can be for you. not just what you like to eat or how are you are in bed but what makes you happy, what makes you smile, what makes you want to get up in the morning, what makes you sad, what makes you think. they should be interested in every single intricate detail of you and the being of who you are and everything they do should coincide with that. If everything doesn’t match, if everything they do, doesn’t match what they say then there’s an imbalance somewhere. at that point you need to make a decision as to if you want spend time in that person’s energy or not.

Until next time,
Tiffany Michellé ✌
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#oneLife2Live

I’ve lost both of my parents. I’m 37 and I live in an empty nest. Most nights I dine with my thoughts, cuddled up and comfy with solitude. Silence keeps me warm. Regret keeps me busy.

Some people don’t really understand the significance of time. More than money or any other materialistic thing, its what I wish I had more of.

We take advantage of the notion of tomorrow, not really accepting the fact that it might not show up. We spend so much of our moments chasing fantasies and worrying about the things we can’t control.

By focusing on who I’d disappoint, I sacrificed my own happiness, spending many years of my life living for other people. Who I was, was lost. My vision was unclear. I sit in silence thinking of how many opportunities I was gifted to experience life, wishing I could go back in time. To the moment when…

All she wanted to do was love me.

We learn our ABCs; we don’t learn how to be happy. Boy and Girls today’s lesson: How to people please. We are raised to be drones, programmed to live for our family, religion and society. We live in a space where people seldom ask, “Are you truly happy?”

My advice to you:

Don’t wait until it’s too late
Cherish those you love
Treasure those who love you
Live your life for you
Do what you love
Be who you want to be
NOW is all we have

Until we meet again,
Tiffany Michellé 💋

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Shall we be #free. Let’s.

Until next time,
Tiffany Michellé 💋

 

#Love707

In dating and relationships, people tend to take the road most frequently traveled, they attempt to play it safe, not going against the grain. If we won’t be our true selves – faults, insecurities, hurts and all, how is the right person supposed to get to know us? Why tip toe around subjects or issues to avoid healthy conflict? It’s in the ingredients where we find our weaknesses and our growth. It’s in the confusion that we find clarity. Working through it all, is where we can find each other.

Tiffany Michellé 💋

 

#Leggo

Sometimes, we hold onto people whom we shouldn’t because we don’t want to hurt them. But after feelings have developed, whether quickly or in time, the pain is the same. If you know you can’t love someone the way they deserve to be loved, please let them go. In time hopefully their heart will heal and they will allow true love to enter into their lives.

Until next time,
Tiffany Michellé ✌

 

#Fukit

Life isn’t as complicated as it seems. With whatever you want to achieve, you have two choices. You can live your life in fear, worrying about what everyone else thinks, how people see you, failure and etc OR You can say #fuckit and go balls to the wall, diving deeply and beastly into life without fear. Knowing if you mess up, you have the option to try again, knowing you’re just learning and you don’t have to be perfect. What will you choose?

Tiffany Michellé ✌

 

The #Love Grind

The lonely heart ails at the able inability to give of its self. The most difficult experience my heart has felt is prohibited expression; loving a soul that failed to see my reflection. Even more so my incapacity to let go.

Tiffany Michellé ✌