#alilsumthinsumthin

One antidote to stress is self-expression. That’s what happens to me every day. My thoughts get off my chest, down my sleeves and onto my pad. – Garson Kanin

In the book I’m currently reading titled, Awakened Mind by David Kundtz he states,

This is not merely an option, but an urgent necessity for healthy, wise 21^st – century living. Find your “something” now-or very soon.

What David is referring to is that something you do that helps you deal; that something that aids you with coping with not only the manic of the world but also the stressors that come along with day to day life. As I’m reading this of course writing comes to mind. If you know me by now, you know without a doubt that writing is my something. As I read on I recall that as I’ve grown to prefer solitude as I’m coping with life, I’ve adopted a few somethings: music, working out, meditation, allowing myself to cry and embracing the silence.

In my past, I was ashamed to admit that life was getting to be too much for me.  I’ve always had a dominant personality and I felt like admitting I was stressed would make me seem weak. Have you ever felt that way?

How many hats do you wear? Who are you to each individual person in your life? Are you a parent, a friend, a sibling, a partner, a caregiver, a child, a boss, an employee or all the above? Think about it. Not only is that a lot of personalities to deal with every single day but it’s also a lot of responsibility. Now add finances, politics, religion, grief and loss, guilt, unresolved emotion, the effects of world events and everything else we experience to that list. AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! How are we not all insane?!

So sit back and think about your life and all that comes with it, ask yourself what is your something. What do you do to deal with the ups, downs and all arounds of life? What practices help maintain your sanity in this insane world? And if you can’t think of anything at all…I suggest you do.

Live long and prosper beautiful fockers,

Tiffany Michellé 🖖

 

#Love707

In dating and relationships, people tend to take the road most frequently traveled, they attempt to play it safe, not going against the grain. If we won’t be our true selves – faults, insecurities, hurts and all, how is the right person supposed to get to know us? Why tip toe around subjects or issues to avoid healthy conflict? It’s in the ingredients where we find our weaknesses and our growth. It’s in the confusion that we find clarity. Working through it all, is where we can find each other.

Tiffany Michellé 💋

 

The Spine-Chilling Tales of Poor Sapp #Single-ton

“Tough world being Single, truly is. I have observed what some of my single friends and associates go thru and I’d be scared to be in the dating world. We have even produced events for singles and will do so again cause we know it is rough.”

My reaction after I read the quote above>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

 

 

If you’re happy and single by choice, raise your hand! (Raises hand) If you’re sad and lonely because you’re still waiting on Mr. or Misses Right to appear out of a bright light in the sky and save you, come here suga dumplings and give me a hug…Cute lil thing. (Cops a feel)

PSA: Being single is not like having the plague.

I was skimming instagram today and I came across the quote posted above and I must be honest in saying, the shenanigans (a pretty word for shit) bothered me. You see, I have an issue when people make being single seem like having a disease that can only be cured by another person. Why? Because while some of us are attempting to bring sunshine into people’s lives, others are making them feel less than based upon their relationship status. ✔ marking a box indicating you’re SINGLE doesn’t make you a poor unfortunate soul just as being in a relationship doesn’t automatically provide you with infinite orgasmic goodness.

Why must people continue to correlate being single with being unhappy or assume that everyone who is single, is single and looking? Some prefer companionship over a committed relationship, others might find joy in having options and some are perfectly content being by themselves. The preferences go on and on and everyones’ differ.

If someone reading this tidbit already felt bad about being single beforehand, they might just be suicidal afterwards.

(DON’T KILL YOURSELF!!! WE’D MISS YOU!!)

People let’s stop with all the “my situation is happier aka better than yours because …” ways of thinking. If it wasn’t the writer’s intention to make being single sound scary and grim, he should’ve remained mute until he figured out how not to sound like he was cramming all single people into this tight fitting, locker room stinky and spooky box. Different doesn’t necessarily mean bad just as being single doesn’t signify negativity or someone not being enough. Single people don’t need sympathy, we need healthy self esteem to be able to deal with the unwarranted societal stereotypes and stigmas placed on us by who knows who and who knows what.

So how about this, instead of writing about your cretinous scenarios of the single life, if you must share, buy us single folk some buttered popcorn, lightly salted along with some peach schnapps with a gigantic drop of vodka and tell us all about the delectable delights of your particular relationship or you can wait until we are all white girl wasted and tell us how rough you believe being single is. We won’t remember a damn thing ☺.

Until next time my sweet little suga pops!

Tiffany Michellé

Click here to learn more about me, the beautiful and sexy author and blogger Tiffany Michellé

 

Thank you…

When I was a little girl, my granny used to tell me that she could tell that I had been here before. She would always tell me sweet things about myself. The other day, I heard her in my ear whispering. I called her and told her thank you for always loving, believing in me and never judging me. My ancestors have been my guides; they’ve shown me how to be strong, how to love and how to always be obedient to my spirit. I honor, adore and respect them.

The feedback I receive for my writings from each of you means so much to me. I AM aware that God has blessed me and that is something I accept, honor and appreciate so humbly. To put everything within me guided my spirit and formulated by these keys takes a lot of courage, to open up my heart for the entire world to see. I fight through the fear because my soul tells me that someone out there needs to hear it. So I need to share with you that whether I know you or not, I love you deeply for being here because without you I would have no avenue to share the love pouring out of my spirit.

Sincerely,

Tiffany Michellé aka Almostdating007