The good, the bad & the beautiful…

When difficult experiences arrive, Life grants us the opportunity to seek understanding and at times the best way to learn is to discover alternative perspectives. If we can change our sight in order to uplift our minds, we could see things differently easily. Practicing this is essential to growing and finding good even in hard times. When we attempt to find the good in the experiences we label as bad, we learn that it’s easier to control our emotions, instead of allowing them to control us. If we pay attention and don’t mind growing through the pain, we will find that difficult times teach us how to be better. 

Live long and prosper 🖖,

Tiffany Michellé

 

Somewhere between space and time… #Life

The most meaningful things in life aren’t in the vastness but in the micro-segments labeled experience. The moment in time when happiness is at its peak. When sadness seems abyssally deep. When joy reaches beyond the skies above. In the exact instance, your soul realizes it’s in love.
“I heard my soul whisper. Take a peek. When I seek – absence of me. Striving for the courage to venture back from where I’ve been. This time observing through a different lense.”

Tiffany Michellé 💋
tiffanymichel-le.com

 

They might just be blind as #@!$

Some shit just doesn’t work out. Every relationship isn’t meant to go on forever. Sometimes experiences occur solely to teach us something about ourselves. It doesn’t meant you need to question your self-worth. You’re enough, but you must believe it.  

Until next time my sweet little suga dumplings,
Tiffany Michellé

 

What’s it all about…

No matter the circumstances, we must understand that #Life is here to #teach us. Everything we go through, good #feeling experiences and not so good feeling experiences exist only to teach us some kind of #lesson about ourselves so that we can in turn become better. Once we understand that, Life begins to make much more sense. 

Tiffany Michellé

Visit my official website and gain access to my recently released book, A Soul’s Stroll: A 40 Day Journey to Discovering Spiritual Enlightenment!

 

Busy Lil Bumble T!!!

My sweet little love buckets!!!! Oh how I’ve missed you!! I’ve been so busy with the tshirt line that I’ve neglected to swing by and show you some love. Life is going well and I hope all is well with you too.

So lets give a dating update………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….Did you hear that? Its called silence. That’s how my dating experiences has been lately. Quiet as hell lol.

About a month or so ago I created another dating profile and at no surprise to me, I’ve been getting hit up by the same types of guys as in the past. Married men, guys with girlfriends and dudes that have more than 3-4 spelling or grammar errors in their profile #dontjudgemeimpicky. There have been some “ok” guys on there as well but here’s my concern about guys that are just “ok.” If I settle for a guy who’s mediocre to me and then I somehow meet a guy at the grocery store or something that’s better than mediocre, then what? You know my pretty little shallow ass is going to want the greener grass! So why even go for just “ok” when I already know how that’ll play out? «insert answer here»

These dating sites can get a little irritating sometimes and honestly also a little discouraging. There’s so many thumbs down that it makes a girl wonder if any thumbs up still exist. I’ve deleted and re-downloaded the apps I think like 3 times lol. The last time I deleted it, I said I’d stop doing that. A good friend of mine had a FB post that said something like, “Don’t allow the court jesters to discourage you from finding your King.” I don’t think she said it exactly like that but that was the point I got from it. I try to remember that when I get discouraged.

I know he exists out there somewhere, I just have to keep believing and making myself available instead of closing up like I want to do sometimes. I met a gentleman in the last day or two who seems pretty cool. So we will see how that goes. He’s definitely scrumptious!!!

I will try my best to visit more often. Let me show you why I’ve been away for almost a month. Here are some of my recent designs at #imjustthemessenger apparel by Tiffany Michellè…

Yup I’ve been working my little bumbling bee ass off lovebugs!! If you’d like to see more designs, visit my site at http://imjustthemessenger.net and take a looksie!

I appreciate you all and I hope you have a super great day!!! Maybe some of you will even get some good booty lol.

Until we meet again my sweet suga dumplings,
Tiffany Michellè

 

how to shit #rainbows…

It’s Monday morning and it takes everything within you to drag yourself out of bed. You not only dread Monday mornings but every moment that you have to be at work. You hate your job and you think everyone there is a fucktard! Hmmm…

Well it might not be your job that’s the issue or the people. I’m sorry to say (I’m lying, I’m not sorry) but ITS YOU! Awww poor baby, I’m calling you out and now you’re butt hurt.

You hate me now? Well too bad, keep listening. It sounds like there’s a lack of happiness/quality in your life and the way you’ve been approaching it, is most likely the cause of your discontentment. Get that frown off your face and let me explain.

I write about depending on you emotionally in this blog a lot. Well did you know there’s a word for that?

***Drum roll please***

It’s called INTROSPECTION!

In my own words, introspection is looking within yourself to find the answers you seek, hopefully with an understanding that you’re responsible for your thoughts and feelings, which dictate the level of happiness and quality in your life. 

Have you ever met or do you know a person who’s always happy? They seem like they always have something positive to say no matter the circumstances and they’re full of energy. We call those folks Positive Patties. PP’s might remind you of someone who’s amped up on coke but the diff is a PP’s high doesn’t go down, it’s natural, it doesn’t cause nose bleeds and it’s legal lol ☺.

HERE’S THE SECRET!!!

You must realize that happiness isn’t dependent upon or controlled by what’s occurring outside of you (people, religion, society, the media and etc.). Your level of happiness and therefore your quality of life is solely reliant on your thoughts and feelings. The key is you have to be consistent in controlling them in order to experience constant happiness, no matter what you’re doing, what’s going on in your life and regardless of who’s around.

Now some of you might be positively satisfied with your quality of life. If you are, kudos to you; tell everyone your secret by writing it in a book and charging $14.99 for it. That’s what I did…so go buy it at http://tiffanymichel-le.com and then email this post to all the fucktards you know, like seriously…let’s work together to make this world a much happier place.

Until we meet again my sweet banana splits with a cherry on top,

Tiffany Michellé

 

 

On the outside looking in…

During life we experience so much with other individuals. Some of those times feel good and some of them don’t. Often when they don’t feel favorable we point our emotional and mental attention outward at the person instead of inward to ourselves. In doing so we miss the opportunity to learn the lesson planted in the experience and therefore the chance to grow into a better us.

Love & Light,
Tiffany Michellè

 

Growing pains…

When a situation in your life feels uncomfortable, remind yourself that life is stretching you. Life’s desire is for you to grow through the lesson in order to become a better you. Take advantage of that moment. Quiet your emotions and consciously ask yourself – What role will I take in this situation, the victim or the victor? You have the power to decide.

Love & Light,
Tiffany Michellè

 

let’s not say goodbye…

I began this blog with the mission of sharing myself with the world while on my journey to finding the woman in me. It was an interesting one to say the least. I had some up and I had some downs but everything I experienced, taught me. I’ve learned so much during this time to make me see differently and more insightfully.

• I learned that I am much braver than I thought I was.
• I learned that it’s ok to be imperfect and that being the perfect me is all I am ever supposed to be.
• I learned that it isn’t people that make me happy.
• I learned that people will leave but the sun will still rise.
• I learned that I might have to observe some things with tears in my eyes.
• I learned that all I need to do is be the best me I can be.
• I learned that your journey is not for everyone to understand and that’s ok.
• I learned that everyone just wants to be happy.
• I learned that I have a gift for saying things that others are afraid to say.
• Etc…etc.

With today being the last day of Almostdating 007, I took the time to read a lot of my posts over again. Some made me laugh, some I just smh and some had me teary eyed. I have never given so much of myself to myself in my life. In a lot of the posts, I was speaking to myself but since you were my audience you might have thought I was speaking to someone else. But most times, it was just me in my mind, thinking aloud courageously.

I asked some close sister friends on my personal Facebook page to point out some of the posts that meant the most to them. You never know what your words mean to people. They surprised me with their responses. I knew they inspired me so much but I had no idea how much my words meant to them.

“I love that you stay real with emotion, situation, and spirit, not being afraid to be human speaking about our simple/complex condition with noting the triumphs/mistakes we beings make to get through this life.”

“What would we do without you Tiffany.”

“I appreciate you. Thanks for sharing with me and always allowing me to be apart of your writing and your journey.”

So now that my life is changing, I have to shift as well. I am no longer a premature dater. I am much more aware. Have I got it ALL figured out? Geshhh! Not by any means. There are still unanswered questions but at least I can say that I see with much more clarity and I see myself much more than I did before internally.

In the meantime I will be working on my writing and my books, continuing to inspire myself and others as well. I will transition this blog to something different with a different title and most likely it will be linked through my website. I will never stop writing, its who I am so some way, somehow you can always be connected to me. My 1st book is available via PayPal. My website http://tiffanymichel-le.com is active but under construction but I promise not for long.

I appreciate all of you. I appreciate my fellow bloggers and all of the hundreds of email followers, the people who have bought my books, I even appreciate the Lookie Lous. Without you to whom shall my words speak?

Not everyone is brave enough to allow themselves to be naked to the world and not everyone will understand. Instead of seeing you as a risk taker or being confident some will see you differently than what you’re actually portraying.

I took that chance when I decided to be free.

Until next life time my friends,

Tiffany Michellé (Pronounced Michel-lay), formerly known as Almostdating007

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what’s #love got 2 do with it?

As we grow we should learn to accept the fact that people are allowed to choose what they want for their lives. It might not be the same decision that we would make but in that instant we must remind ourselves that we’re all different. Some of us want different things and because of that diversity, we make different choices. People chose to live for their own reasons. They chose their goals and their dreams and they’re permitted to select what they want and what they don’t, no matter how their choice might affect us.

In our last conversation over a year ago before I walked away, my father told me, “I love you daughter.” It was something he said every time we spoke and our conversation was coming to a close. But in his actions, he chooses not to be in my or my little brother’s life for reasons unknown – reasons of his own. Does that mean he doesn’t love us? I don’t know, honestly. The day I decided to heal from the pain, understanding was no longer my concern. I accepted the fact that his version of love isn’t mine.

We must respect the choices that people make with the understanding that it’s their life, not ours. You or I cannot paint a picture depicting what we want someone else’s love to look like and make it truth. How they choose to deliver it is up to them, we can only see what they give, decide if it matches ours and then choose if we want to receive it.

As we mature and experience life, our version of love changes like the weather. We meet people, we think we’re in love, it ends and we realize it was never love, just a very strong like. When we’re young, we love everyone. Then the world taints us, we experience pain and we become selective and protective.

If asked the definition of love, you could try your best to provide the most philosophical, intensely deep answer known to man but that answer would still only be your opinion, almost certainly based on your experiences. What does love look like to a girl whose mother has abused her since infancy? Does it look the same to a boy whose father devotedly cared for him all of his life? What about the girl who fell in love with a man who later broke her heart? What does love look like to her? Most likely her definition will be based on the timing in which you asked – before or after the heartache.

I have no idea what love is to you, her, him or anyone else; what I do know is…

“People will show you all kinds of confusing depictions of love therefore concurrently you must know without a doubt what it means to you. You need to be conscious of what it feels like, what it looks like, what it tastes like, what it smells like and what it sounds like to you. After you decide it’s meaning with everything within your being, you must stand firm on that belief consistently, like breathing.”

Until we meet again,

Almostdating007