#Love707

In dating and relationships, people tend to take the road most frequently traveled, they attempt to play it safe, not going against the grain. If we won’t be our true selves – faults, insecurities, hurts and all, how is the right person supposed to get to know us? Why tip toe around subjects or issues to avoid healthy conflict? It’s in the ingredients where we find our weaknesses and our growth. It’s in the confusion that we find clarity. Working through it all, is where we can find each other.

Tiffany Michellé 💋

 

Dreams of solace…

Last week while driving to one meeting to the next, our second of three that day, she asked me what I wanted to be. She assumed because of my intergalactic ability to create great things that my desire was to rule. I explained, conquering the world and seeking massive monetary gain seemed mundane. That wasn’t the dream I pursue. I wish to live in silence, provide shelter for ones who have none, love children and exist off the grid. Agreed with me, she did.

Tiffany Michellé

 

#imjustthemessenger Apparel by Tiffany Michellè

Allow me to introduce myself. Ladies and Gentlemen, my name is Tiffany Michellè and I’m a mutha freaking inspiring, motivating, educating, ground shaking, wind breaking (lol), keeping it real stating hustler!

I told you it would happen and now its a reality! My very own graphic t-shirt line #imjustthemessenger apparel is alive and kicking!

Visit http://www.imjustthemessenger.net, view more designs and make your purchase today!

Until next time suga plums,
Tiffany Michellè

 

#words in go mode!

Introducing #imjustthemessenger apparel by Tiffany Michellè!

Now not only can you enjoy my words of inspiration, motivation and realism via my books and blog but you can get as close as close can get to me on the skin you’re in!! Owww La La!!

I will be taking pre-orders and designing additional items in the near future so stay tuned! Men’s shirts are also available!

Spread the Word my little love muffins!
Tiffany Michellè

 

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Renewed website!!!

Gain access to my book and soon you’ll also be able to enter my blog from my site! Very exciting stuff all in one place!

Visit http://tiffanymichel-le.com today!

 

let’s not say goodbye…

I began this blog with the mission of sharing myself with the world while on my journey to finding the woman in me. It was an interesting one to say the least. I had some up and I had some downs but everything I experienced, taught me. I’ve learned so much during this time to make me see differently and more insightfully.

• I learned that I am much braver than I thought I was.
• I learned that it’s ok to be imperfect and that being the perfect me is all I am ever supposed to be.
• I learned that it isn’t people that make me happy.
• I learned that people will leave but the sun will still rise.
• I learned that I might have to observe some things with tears in my eyes.
• I learned that all I need to do is be the best me I can be.
• I learned that your journey is not for everyone to understand and that’s ok.
• I learned that everyone just wants to be happy.
• I learned that I have a gift for saying things that others are afraid to say.
• Etc…etc.

With today being the last day of Almostdating 007, I took the time to read a lot of my posts over again. Some made me laugh, some I just smh and some had me teary eyed. I have never given so much of myself to myself in my life. In a lot of the posts, I was speaking to myself but since you were my audience you might have thought I was speaking to someone else. But most times, it was just me in my mind, thinking aloud courageously.

I asked some close sister friends on my personal Facebook page to point out some of the posts that meant the most to them. You never know what your words mean to people. They surprised me with their responses. I knew they inspired me so much but I had no idea how much my words meant to them.

“I love that you stay real with emotion, situation, and spirit, not being afraid to be human speaking about our simple/complex condition with noting the triumphs/mistakes we beings make to get through this life.”

“What would we do without you Tiffany.”

“I appreciate you. Thanks for sharing with me and always allowing me to be apart of your writing and your journey.”

So now that my life is changing, I have to shift as well. I am no longer a premature dater. I am much more aware. Have I got it ALL figured out? Geshhh! Not by any means. There are still unanswered questions but at least I can say that I see with much more clarity and I see myself much more than I did before internally.

In the meantime I will be working on my writing and my books, continuing to inspire myself and others as well. I will transition this blog to something different with a different title and most likely it will be linked through my website. I will never stop writing, its who I am so some way, somehow you can always be connected to me. My 1st book is available via PayPal. My website http://tiffanymichel-le.com is active but under construction but I promise not for long.

I appreciate all of you. I appreciate my fellow bloggers and all of the hundreds of email followers, the people who have bought my books, I even appreciate the Lookie Lous. Without you to whom shall my words speak?

Not everyone is brave enough to allow themselves to be naked to the world and not everyone will understand. Instead of seeing you as a risk taker or being confident some will see you differently than what you’re actually portraying.

I took that chance when I decided to be free.

Until next life time my friends,

Tiffany Michellé (Pronounced Michel-lay), formerly known as Almostdating007

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You scream, I scream, We all SCREAM for Ice Cream?!

Imagine with me:

Your partner has done something that has affected you in an emotionally harmful manner; your feelings are hurt. Although you’re affected by this, you don’t want to say fuck it and throw in the towel so you conjure up some serious bravery and express yourself respectfully (bravery – Because we all know that it’s not always easy to put our feelings out in the open, especially after we’ve been hurt by someone we care for) and they respond by saying,

“Your feelings don’t make sense.”

All relationships aren’t going to be easy and if you think that L-O-V-E will stop you and your partner from having a disagreement, think again. You must realize that no matter how much you feel for one another, you have two different minds and therefore you won’t continuously agree on everything. Also you’re two people who have lived diverse experiences so you might not even always understand one another. But having a difference of opinion doesn’t mean that you aren’t still on the same page as far as your relationship is concerned.

Different doesn’t always mean bad, sometimes different is good for us because it helps us in our growth. Different stretches you and moves you out of your comfort zone. When we’ve reached a certain point in our growth, we come to realize that not always understanding each other is normal. Most importantly, it’s how you react when you don’t understand something about your partner and vice versa; that’s the vital determinant of the success and health in your relationship.

As human beings for some reason we have a habit of ridiculing the things we don’t comprehend or aren’t familiar with. We become suspicious or concerned when our partner seems to be displaying a behavior that is similar to a past lover’s behavior. It seems to be a learned behavior but it doesn’t prove to be a very positive one. At times when we don’t understand our partner’s feelings, we immediately take offense or discredit their feelings by telling them that they shouldn’t feel that way or their feelings don’t make sense. We compare them to people or a person we’ve dated in the past as if they are not two totally different people. That is the easiest way to make your partner withdraw. It causes a person to feel like their feelings don’t matter and it might actually cause your partner to stop expressing themselves to you. Also if you’re comparing your partner to someone else, you might want to ask yourself if you’ve healed from the past experience. People react to things based on their experiences and your partner shouldn’t have to be punished for the tainted taste your ex left in your mouth. The best thing you can do for your relationship is to take your ego out of it. If we truly care for our partners, our first reaction should be out of love. It shouldn’t be our first instinct to take offense simply because we don’t understand or agree with their feelings. If you want to maintain a healthy and loving relationship with this person, the last thing you want to do is push them away right?

In love and relationships, we should provide a safe space for our partners. Even if we have no understanding in regard to their feelings, would it hurt for us to just say, “Well honey, I didn’t mean to affect you in that way” or “Sweetie, I don’t understand why you feel like that but it wasn’t my intention to cause you any harm.” Oh this is a good one: “Honey, I see that you’re dealing with some things, how about I give you some time to sort your feelings out and when you’re ready to discuss it, I’m here for you.” Sometimes it’s not about YOU and in love there are moments when we have to set our opinions and judgments aside to focus on getting back to the place where you and your partner feel loved and supported. Who gives a damn if we have to put our egos in the closet in order to do so? At the end of the day we want to show our love enough to where we’re still getting some nookie aka SEXXXXX ☺.

When each person is willing to open up and be themselves, it’s a great thing! If you agree on absolutely everything, someone is faking. When your lover opens up and expresses how they feel, pat yourself on the back because that means they care and love you enough to try to make it work. It also indicates that you’ve provided a space in which they’re comfortable being vulnerable with you. If your partner is still talking to you after all of your mess ups, even the ones you won’t fess up to, there’s still hope.

Until we meet again my sweet little monkey butts,

Almostdating007

*In the 1^st paragraph I bolded, RESPECTFULLY intentionally because just because you’re hurt that doesn’t give you the right to disrespect your partner in how you speak to them and vice versa. If you’re irate, cursing at your lover, raising your voice and etc. as a way as expressing how you feel, you cannot blame your partner for returning exactly what you’re giving them. Like attracts like so negative energy attracts more negative energy. GET IT TOGETHER!

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Subjective Deception

Love’s apparition

Neglected reciprocation

Endlessly empty

Fear screams

Endogenous vacancy

Yearning for fidelity

Survival is nothing unless it derives from someone else

The lies you whisper to yourself

© 2014 Tiffany Michellé

AKA Almostdating007

 

Get your happy ass on!!!

So you’re in a new relationship, you’re excited! You want to profess your love to the world!!! But when you do, the world says:
The bliss is only in the beginning.
This happiness is short-lived and when reality hits it’ll fade away.
You just met Mr./Ms. Such and Such, the real them isn’t out yet.

Now your excitement has faded and now you’re fearful. Listen, you have to understand something, unhappy people say unhappy people shit and if a person is unhappy in their own lives and they choose to exist in despair, that’s all they can see. They won’t be able to give you an optimist point of view and if you know they’re unhappy or jealous hearted, no matter how much you want their blessing, don’t expect them to. They can’t give you something they don’t presently have within themselves.

It’s like asking a prisoner for freedom. An advanced mind knows although he’s physically captive, his mind and spirit can be free. But to the mental and emotional prisoner, freedom is out of his realm of reality.

The truth is that Love can last, happiness and blissful experiences can stand the test of time, that’s not a myth or a mystery.

Two happy people is all it takes. Being a happy person adds a lot of other positive attributes to you: Patience, love, understanding and etc.

See, when you’re happy with yourself and your life before you enter a relationship, it’s easier for you to be yourself. You’re happy with you, you don’t know anything else. You don’t feel the need to be fake. You’re real and true.

You know that the sole individual responsible for your happiness is you. You understand your partner can add to the happiness that already resides within you but they cannot take it away.

When you’re happy, you take less things personal because you’re not on the defense and easily offended. When your partner is having a bad day, you know you’re not entitled to fix them or it. You just continue being your ole happy self and eventually they’ll feel better because they understand what it takes to elevate.

The scenario is completely different with a couple that consists of two unhappy people. One person is having a bad day. The other takes offense. They think it’s about them or they don’t give their partner the time they need to work through it. They nag or blame and now both parties have unproductive attitudes. They end up arguing over frivolous things and shit that doesn’t make sense. It’s the negative energy that exists in both of them.

So the next time you feel the need to skip your little happy go lucky and in love ass over melancholy Mindy’s house to share the news of your blossoming and loving sex pot of a relationship, think again.

Until we meet again suga pies,
Almostdating007

 

Ah ha!

Love yourself enough to recognize the insecurities within others and to give them the space and time they need to heal. If someone is confused about their identity, they have yet to come into who they are. If they cannot distinguish who they are, what makes you think that you have the ability to turn on their “ah ha” light in order for them to recognize who you are? It doesn’t work like that.

We cannot discover the identity of others until we first realize our own. Recognizing self comes from the love of self. If a person does not love themselves within every morsel of their being, they cannot love you. Release them and Embrace Yourself.

Until next time my loves,
Almostdating007