So you say you’re a side chick…

With a few minutes left for V Day on the West Coast, I’m sitting on the counter of my kitchen with my glass of wine, chocolate covered strawberries, sporting my Chuck Taylors and I’m thinking. So with these thoughts in mind, I’ll give you this…

No one is worth being unhappy for just to say you have someone on any day. Many times I’ve seen someone knowingly settle for less than they deserve just to feel the illusion of completeness. I’ve done it and it hasn’t gotten me anywhere and it hasn’t stopped being sad and sickening that we waste our time and effort being unhappy.

As I watched the facebook posts today I saw so many downing the “side chick,” you know the woman that a man keeps on the side despite him being in a relationship. I found the ridicule sad because I don’t find other people’s pain to be comical or something to be made fun of. When it comes down to it, there’s something emotionally out of wack with a person who chooses to set their happiness to the side or throw it completely out of the picture for any reason, let alone someone else. There’s a deeper issue there and instead of ridicule, those individuals need to learn how to practice self love until it becomes like breathing. They need guidance not harsh words.

I pride myself for making great strides and changes within myself. Letting go of toxic relationships and not allowing the selfish tendencies of others to guilt or hinder me. But I might not have been able to get to this point without help. Help from friends and family that love me and from my life coach. They say it takes a village to raise a child but sometimes it takes that same village to help an adult when the child in them is still suffering from emotional scars that have neglected to heal.

So with 0 minutes left on this Valentine’s Day, I want to send some love to the side chicks. I was once where you are and I hope with all of my heart:
That one day soon you’ll realize your worth!
That you’ll believe that you’re a truly amazing human being!
That you deserve to be treated like a queen!
That you deserve to be a priority and not just an option!
That you’ll put yourself first in your life instead of settling for second place in someone else’s!
That you deserved to heal and you deserve to be truly happy!

Much love my sistah and good luck…

Until Next Time,

Almostdating007