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Intro Vlog for The Life & Times of a Premature Dater

So with the help of my sister friend and life coach Frantonia M Pollins I have embarked on the elevating and exciting journey of taking my blog to an entirely different level by also Vlogging. The introductory video is now uploaded on my YouTube Channel. PLEASE SUBSCRIBE! I’m waiting for the 1st Vlog to be approved, I really dig that one. I appreciate my folks seeing the gifts within me and supporting me in this particular dream! Much love as always, Almostdating007

 
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Posted by on May 14, 2014 in Dating

 

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a figment of my imagination…

a figment of my imagination...

“A relation absent of authentic communication isn’t a tangible affiliation; it’s more like a mendacious association.”

Tiffany Michellé aka Almostdating007

 
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Posted by on May 14, 2014 in Dating

 

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Subjective Journey…

Lonely_by_FrozenStardustIn the past three hundred and sixty one days I’ve learned that…

The Unhealed will hurt me only if I allow them to

Lies will run to avoid the Truth

My energy is captivating but that doesn’t mean they are ready to receive me

The Universe does exactly what I ask it to do; it protects me even when my ego doesn’t want it to

My intuition is the best companion for this journey

The feeling I get in my chest when deception is near isn’t an indication that I’m not healed, instead it’s a gift. It forewarns me that my heart’s best isn’t their interest

People are scared to feel

There’s nothing wrong with the silence, it’s how I deal

This isn’t my 1st lifetime and I’ve learned the most in this one

The small star in my dreams is my son

My soul’s mission is bigger than the human things I desire in my life

Validation doesn’t come from being a man’s wife

Smiling is not a form of true happiness

Words without action are worthless

People will voluntarily reveal their weaknesses

In order to really understand others, it’s best to remain quiet

I wouldn’t mind living alone with the trees

No matter how much I hold on, I can detach just as easily

I’m ok with it just Being me.

© 2014 Tiffany Michellé

 

 

 
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Posted by on May 14, 2014 in Life

 

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Breaking Up: The Blame Game

BreakupsBreakups happen and there’s really nothing anyone can do about that. People rush into relationships based on how they feel about the person physically. People get into relationships prior to getting over others. People get into relationships before they’re ready to sacrifice being with other lovers. No matter the origin, when it’s over, it’s over; no matter who’s to blame.

Before I began this conscious journey of self-discovery, when I’d experience a breakup even if the guy was completely wrong, somehow secretly I’d blame it all on me. I knew I was a good person and in most things I did, I meant well but in the back of my heart, I’d tend to think he acted the way he did because He didn’t see me…

Most of the guys I’ve dated in my distant past were douche bags so if they didn’t take the time and effort to see the truly beautiful, intelligent, caring, loving, thoughtful, wonderful, sexy Me, why in the hell did I care? Why would I look down on myself? Well back then I was unaware that not seeing me was a commonality he and I shared.

Back then I didn’t see myself. Emotionally I was unhealed. If you read Loving Me, you’ll recall with most of these guys my heart was looking for the love I didn’t get from my daddy. So even when I’d get so hurt to where I felt like I couldn’t take anymore, he’d come crawling back saying all the “right” things and I’d open the damn door!

healthy-apple-love-illusionWhen your heart is unhealed, you live in little illusions and you don’t truly see shit for what it is, you see it for what you think it could be. So in my head, I was thinking he’d change, if he would only see me…not understanding that he didn’t even see his self.

A lot of people do this: We think when people see how good of a person we are, they’ll change their negative ways. But that’s a fallacy, it’s not reality. If anyone changes, they need to change for themselves and in their own space and time. It doesn’t matter how beautiful, gifted, if you shit gold bricks or if you can tie a cherry stem in a knot with your tongue (I can do that btw, wink wink Sweetie), if he’s a dick that’s what he’s going to be, a dick. No matter how handsome you are, if you have a platinum penis, or if you wine and dine her, if her heart isn’t in the right place; she won’t change for you either.

Most times the way people act have nothing to do with you. There are millions of unhealed people walking this earth. A lot of them are still negatively affected by what their parents did or didn’t do. People are afraid to admit to themselves that they are hurting so why would they admit it to you. Most don’t even understand the emotions going on within them. So when the old pain is triggered, they blame it on you. They don’t want to heal or don’t understand that they need to. Introspection takes courage and besides that’s too much work. So hey here’s an easier route, let’s make you responsible for their lack of happiness and their issues.

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I just saw a light bulb in someone’s mind go off. Does this sound like someone you know or is it you? Who needs a therapist when you’ve got me? F that, buy my book! ☺

But really, if they don’t appreciate who you are, sweetie you have to move on. You can’t just sit around waiting for them to change. Hurting people hurt people. Sounds clichè but its true…

And if you’re the one that’s doing the damage, you’ve got some work to do. If you continue to believe that you lack something you’ll remain unaware that the things you seek cannot be found in someone else. You’ll continue to play the blame game, blaming yourself for other people’s pain or blaming them for the healing absent within yourself.

But when you know better, you do better and the more you look within yourself, you’ll come to find that everything you need to be a better you is within you, you just have to be brave enough to look. If your intentions are good and your heart is true, the Universe will bless you with someone who deserves you. If you don’t believe me, buy my book. It says this too and we all know that everything in books is the TRUTH ☺.

Until we meet again my loves,

Almostdating007

(Photo Credit, Sexy Lightbulb: JG-Edits)

 
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Posted by on May 13, 2014 in Dating, Life, Love

 

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Sister Friends ~

Sister Friends ~

My spirit takes me back to when we would run together. We would play in the fields, smiling and laughing like we didn’t have a care in the world. All we had was each other and that’s all that mattered. Our hearts were pure. The love we had for each other was true. After we got off the bus, we’d eat a snack and run outside to jump double dutch. We were best friends. Back then I never thought our time would end.

Currently when we see each other you look at me up and down like the “others” do. You seem ashamed of the natural me. I don’t hate you for covering yours up. From the inside out, you’ll always be beautiful to me. We used to be so close, like sisters, now what is it in me you see?

Don’t you understand that without you, there is no me. Without me you cannot stand, in order for us to make it, we’ll need to hold hands, like we used to do when we were just girls; when we were innocent, before we were tainted by the ways of the world.

Until you remember who we used to be, I’ll be waiting. When you come back I won’t judge you. I will accept and love you for everything you are and for all the things that you are not. We will skip in the wind like we used to…I hope you return soon because I miss you.

© 2014 Tiffany Michellé aka Almostdating007

 
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Posted by on May 13, 2014 in Dating

 

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Thank you…

193232_12619258_lzWhen I was a little girl, my granny used to tell me that she could tell that I had been here before. She would always tell me sweet things about myself. The other day, I heard her in my ear whispering. I called her and told her thank you for always loving, believing in me and never judging me. My ancestors have been my guides; they’ve shown me how to be strong, how to love and how to always be obedient to my spirit. I honor, adore and respect them.

The feedback I receive for my writings from each of you means so much to me. I AM aware that God has blessed me and that is something I accept, honor and appreciate so humbly. To put everything within me guided my spirit and formulated by these keys takes a lot of courage, to open up my heart for the entire world to see. I fight through the fear because my soul tells me that someone out there needs to hear it. So I need to share with you that whether I know you or not, I love you deeply for being here because without you I would have no avenue to share the love pouring out of my spirit.

Sincerely,

Tiffany Michellé aka Almostdating007

 
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Posted by on May 13, 2014 in Life, Love

 

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The Lotus…

“She emerges from murky waters detached attachment simultaneously. Blossoming with unique beauty despite her past and regardless of her surroundings. Her essence arises free, her soul serene. To be like her, to exist so calm, so peacefully, to be unaffected by the darkness around you, around me. It’d be life’s simplest pleasures ~ Just to be.”

Until we meet again,

Almostdating007

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Posted by on May 12, 2014 in Life

 

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Solitude Soul

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“Alone, he waits. His heart unsure of
her existence. His soul tired from consistence. He persists to seek her. He sits, reminiscent.”

Almostdating007
© 2014 T. Michellè
(Photo credit, Kim Barry)

 
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Posted by on May 11, 2014 in Dating, Life, Love

 

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The wondering…

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“She wonders if the love of self is enough when her heart yearns to be shared with someone else. No matter how much she feeds her spirit, the void exists. Her soul, it misses him deeply but her mind doesn’t know who he is. She wishes to hear his voice, to feel his touch, to be comforted by his kiss. His energy has never been there. Does that stop his spirit from feeling she? Can he? Does he feel her the way that she feels he? His absence causes her to yearn continuously. Why is it taking so long for him to arrive? What is he afraid of? She’d never hurt him, only cherish, adore and protect his heart from strife. Doesn’t he feel within the depths of his being that she needs him? Her heart’s thoughts ~ Void of time.”

Almostdating007

(Photo credit, Kim Barry)

 
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Posted by on May 11, 2014 in Dating, Life

 

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Jumping in heart first…

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The ability to overcome obstacles easily might’ve been innate when we were young and innocent but as we grew, we lost it. Ignoring the pain we’ve been through, guarantees that it’ll show up in our future. Healing is an act of courage that mandates Love of Self and Strength. Either is based on a decision we make. Allow that to marinate….
In the meantime your freedom and happiness await.

Almostdating007

 
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Posted by on May 10, 2014 in Life

 

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